


“Experimental psychologist Eli Finkel is the nation’s preeminent scholar of relationships,” says Gilbert. Alexandra Solomon, Eric Klinenberg, Susan Gadoua, and Daniel Gilbert. Esther Perel put it in her top five, as did Dr. Six of our experts cited The All-or-Nothing Marriage, by Eli Finkel - which combines a historical overview of marriage from 1620 to the present with practical hacks to improve communication and responsiveness - as one of their favorite books on improving romantic relationships. As always, we’ve only included books on our list if they’ve been recommended by at least two of our experts. Alexandra Solomon, a psychologist and co-author of Loving Bravely Ty Tashiro, the author of Awkward: The Science of Why We’re Socially Awkward and Why That’s Awesome. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages Ellen Wachtel, a psychologist and author of We Love Each Other, But … Dr. Sue Johnson, author of Love Sense Esther Perel, therapist and host of relationship podcast Where Should We Begin? Jeanne Safer, a psychotherapist and author of Forgiving and Not Forgiving, Laurie Watson, sex therapist and author of Wanting Sex Again Dr. Carole Lieberman, a psychiatrist and author of Bad Boys Peter Fraenkel, psychiatrist and author of Sync Your Relationship, Save Your Marriage Dr. John Gottman, a psychological researcher and the co-author of Eight Dates Dr. We consulted a bevy of relationship savants, including Eric Klinenberg, professor of sociology and the co-author of Modern Romance Guy Winch, the author of How to Fix a Broken Heart Daniel Gilbert, a professor of psychology at Harvard and the author of Stumbling on Happiness Neil Rosenthal, therapist and the author of Love, Sex and Staying Warm Susan Gadoua, the co-author of The New I Do Dr. But in case the holiday has you taking stock of the state of things, we’ve assembled a list of books that’ll help you and your partner better discuss frustrations, improve your sex lives, and work through big fights. Chocolates or flowers will likely yield better results. Listen: we’re not suggesting you buy your significant other a book on how to achieve a healthier relationship for Valentine’s Day.
